Success is a rather subjective topic. One might feel that success is having a mansion with its own swimming pool at your disposal, another might think it is the quality time you spend with your beloved family.
So how exactly do people decide if they are succeeding?
I’d like to put forward the notion that success has nothing to do with what the world and society now deems someone to be successful. No, it’s not your salary—that’s you succeeding in the rat race of earning money. It’s not about how many fast cars you own, whether your kids go to the best schools or how much better you are than your next rival.
I believe that one of the best signs of success is living a simple life and being genuinely happy with it.
My definition of a ‘simple life’ doesn’t necessarily mean you have to sell all your belongings and moving into the forest, it can be lived no matter where you are. It is formed by your passions, attitudes, relationships and how you live your daily life.
In this post I’ll cover some of the signs that you have found success in life.
1. You Have Found Your Passion
Everyone has something or the other that makes him or her feel complete. You know what you love, be it books, poetry, woodworking or even researching bugs and you’re not afraid to devote your life to it. While you may have your job that requires tons of time, you always remember to keep time for what you love so that your job does not bore you out.
If you’ve made your passion into your career, you get brownie points!
2. You Keep Your Word
Unlike many who sell themselves with flamboyant words and run when the time comes for a hard toil, you work hard. When you say you will do something, you keep your word. Deadlines are very important to you, not only for work but also in friendship. People aren’t afraid to make plans with you because they don’t have to fear you not turning up!
3. You Are Your Own Competitor
Most often, people let their pride get the better of them. This means not experimenting or pushing themselves because they fear they may not win or not match up to someone else. You however, are not built for this rat race.
You truly embody the spirit of working to make yourself better than who you were yesterday.
4. You Are Reliable
Be it family, friends or colleagues, everyone knows you are someone who will help them when the time arises. You are caring and giving, but also don’t let people step all over you. You are a great team member and a passionate leader. Your friends love being around you because they feel safe and comfortable with you.
5. You Take Care of Your Body
You get tired after a long gruelling week. Sometimes, the fatigue can lead to sickness too. While you’re known greatly for helping others, you don’t neglect your own body. You take regular appointments and eat healthy. You also find it important to sweat it out and enjoy a good workout session.
But it is never anything extra strenuous! You know your body in and out and know how much of work it can take before collapsing.
6. You are Content with What You Have
If you are purchasing things in order to make you happy, you’re playing an unwinnable game.
Have you noticed how the excitement is there when you think about purchasing something new? You may be thinking about the latest gadget, a brand new car, a designer piece of clothing or even a fancy new home. And then you make the purchase. It’s all exciting at first but then after a day, a week or a month, the excitements gone and you’re looking at the next thing to buy.
Purchasing things for yourself is not a bad thing. You need things in your life and certainly some items can being some joy. But what you’ll find is that there is a base line of the things you need. When you have these things, the things you purchase in addition won’t bring you much additional joy.
7. You Have a Great Support System
Along the years, you might have had a fair share of drama, but those days are in the past now. You have a bunch of people who you truly love and vice versa. You would do anything for them just like they are a call away in time of distress. These are the people you feel comfortable with as they create a space without judgment and give you honest advice—even though the truth sometimes is bitter.
These people motivate you everyday to be the best at what you do, and you are forever grateful of their presence in your life.
8. Money Isn’t That Important to You
Money is a tricky topic in relation to success and happiness. Money is important because it can help us to buy food, shelter and clothing which are essential for our survival. Someone who doesn’t have enough money to secure these essentials then finds themselves in the position to do so, will find some joy in having money.
However, if you have enough money already and want more money in order to prove yourself worthy or to buy the best things in life, your chase will never end. The more you get the more you want. You will keep pushing for higher numbers never finding rest and satisfaction.
A sign of success is not letting money become a god to you.
9. You Have a Game Plan
A sign of success is being a good organizer. You know what you want in life, be it for tomorrow or 20 years after. You know how to achieve that goal and work for it. You are ambitious and focused on the goal at hand.
You also tend to focus on the larger pictures of life rather than focusing on minute details that will not matter in the long run.
10. You Sleep Well
Sleeping makes up a great portion of our lives, or so it should. If you aren’t sleeping properly it can have profound effects on how you live your life. If you are not sleeping properly, you lose focus, feel constantly tired and lack energy to do the things you love or try new things that are challenging. Not getting enough sleep also dramatically affects your mood.
What I’ve learnt in my own life is that getting a good nights sleep can be learnt. How much sleep you get depends a lot on your daily habits and by changing them, you can increase the quality of sleep you get every night.
If you start getting the optimal amount of sleep on a consistent basis, you’ll automatically become more optimistic and happier in life.
11. You Ask for Help
Though you are extremely motivated and willing to work, it’s not like your path to success was one without any mishaps and failures. However you use that failure as a sign of the need to improve your ways. You never give up and when you are stuck, you turn to someone you trust for help.
Showing that you need assistance doesn’t show you are weak, it shows that you are dedicated enough to ask others to help you out.
12. You Unplug
Keeping up with friends, work, family and everyone you are connected with through social media can be a workout on its own. You realize that life isn’t only about others and take time to embrace solitude.
While many view being alone as a sign of being lonely, you use it as a time to reflect on yourself and the world around you. A little time away from people helps you regroup and refocus yourself. That’s why you are sure to be found doing something that helps you unplug, be it yoga, an adult colouring book, meditation, diary writing or walks outdoors.
13. You Forgive
Who doesn’t have fights that are messier than you’d like them to be?
Your blood boils and arguments lead to months and years of separation between the two parties. Some hold grudges for years, however you don’t. You don’t believe in keeping grudges because they just pull you down with emotional baggage. You forgive people. This doesn’t mean you’re naïve or they are welcome into your life again; it just means you’re willing to move on from your past and grow from the experience.
14. You Are Positive and Happy
This is perhaps what gives away whether you are truly successful at life or not.
You wake up each morning with a smile and optimism to make the world for yourself and the ones around you a better place. You remember to thank people and are grateful for the life that you have.
While others are wallowing about how Netflix took out a show, you focus on the new ones they added! You are content—something that not many can proudly say.
15. You Aren’t Addicted to Technology
If you’re outdoors or have people around you there’s a good chance that someone is looking down at their phone. What are they checking? A new e-mail, text, news or the latest picture of a celebrity’s breakfast on Instagram.
So what’s the problem with this?
First of all looking down at your phone all day is bad for your eyes and can give you what is commonly known as text neck.
Secondly, frequent distraction or hits of novelty information rewires your brain to become addicted to little bits of information whether they are of use to you or not. This reduces your ability to enjoy silence and the simple things in life. Can you stand in a queue without taking out your phone?
A sign of success is someone who doesn’t have to check their phone constantly and can enjoy the peace and quiet.
Signs of Success Summary
To sum it up, a sign of success is being content with who you are and what you have, and having a good set of simple habits that you enjoy.
It is not about money, possessions or achievements. Someone who has all these things and thinks they are successful can have any of these things stripped from them in an instant. If they have placed their own self-worth in these things and then lose them, they have lost everything. They have lost their success. There are many people who have become severely depressed or even committed suicide because of such things.
On the other hand, can someone who is happy with the simple things in life and who they are really become unsuccessful? Can they lose everything?
You can plant a person like this anywhere and they will find contentment. Surely this must be the ultimate sign of success!